Managing emotions to foster innovation
Feelings are wonderful things. We’re glad we have them — can you imagine a world where feelings
didn’t exist? It would be pretty bland. There are, however, feelings that we enjoy more, feelings
that we enjoy less, and feelings that we don’t like at all. There are feelings that serve us in some
situations but don’t serve us in others.
Emotional Innovation
Creating organizational innovation requires that we utilize and manage our feelings effectively.
Groups that “get along” well do a better job of innovating. If we get along, we’re
more likely to feel safe sharing wild ideas, taking risks, making difficult change, and failing at
experiments. Certain emotional states can create long term dis-ease in a group, thereby keeping the
group from feeling at ease enough with each other to manifest the behaviors of innovation teams.
Anger, boredom, disengagement, fear: These emotions tend to keep us ill-at-ease where they are
prevalent in the group. Connection, affection, curiosity, engagement, peacefulness, joy: These
emotions create a group dynamic of “ease”. As in at ease with each other and easy to
create innovation.
Choosing Our Emotions
Here’s the radical concept: it is within our potential control to CHOOSE what feeling
we’re going to have at any given time. No, this is not always an easy thing to achieve, and
in fact, there are times when we don’t want to choose anything other than what we’re
experiencing, but it is possible to choose. With intention, attention, and practice, you can
get better at bringing forth the particular emotion that best serves you at any given time.
The trick is to do this consciously — as a choice. Now wouldn’t that be nice? To actually
be able to pick what you feel at any given time?
What’s an Emotion?
Important Note: It should be said before we begin that this discussion assumes normal brain
function, which because of various dynamics is not the case for everyone. Odds are, that if
you’re reading this, you’re normal enough for this to apply to you… even if
your close friends wouldn’t describe you as “normal.”
First, we have to understand that
it’s accurate to view emotions as “neurochemical events” that are spawned by the
specific thoughts we are having at a particular point in time.
A “neurochemical event” is the interaction of neurochemicals — brain chemistry
— with the nerves in your brain and body. While it is possible to alter your neurochemistry
with diet or drugs and thereby alter your thoughts, most of the time it is your thoughts that
control or alter your neurochemistry. In other words, thought patterns cause changes in internal
chemistry, which create physical sensations which we then interpret as feelings. These thought
patterns are not always conscious, but they can be made so with practice. (Search this website
for articles on “concentration” to learn how to make unconscious thoughts more conscious.)
So if you want to create or avoid a particular feeling, one path to get there is to deliberately
choose what you’re thinking about. Some background: let’s spend a few moments exploring:
- what happens when this “feeling thing” goes wrong,
- understand that for ourselves, and then
- look at what we can do to make it go more the way we want it. The way of the innovative brain.
The Rutted Path of Emotions
The trick for avoiding emotions that we find unpleasant or unproductive is to notice the very
early thoughts that are beginning the “thought walk” in the direction of that undesirable
emotion. Full bore intense rage for instance, doesn’t develop instantaneously in normal folks,
even though we’re all capable of it. It starts with thoughts which make us a little angry,
which are retold in our heads, embellished, and extended. If we don’t interrupt this process in
some way, we become progressively more and more angry, potentially progressing to the point of rage.
Note that the more frequently we walk the “thought walk” of any particular emotion, the
more our brain knows the path and the more rapidly we move along it. This is why some people seem to
“fly off the handle” easily and rapidly. They’ve walked the well-worn thought path
before and created a rut that their brain can now run blindfolded in the dark. There are also emotions
that we like. The same process holds true with them as well. The more frequently you tell yourself
the story that creates feelings of bonding and affection, for instance, the more rapidly your
brain can walk itself down that thought path.
The more skilled you become at noticing and choosing the thought paths on which you walk,
the more likely you will be to be able to choose the emotional state you experience at any
given time.
Mastering the Domain of Emotions
If you choose to be unaware of your thinking, or insist on believing that your feelings are caused
by external events (“He’s making me mad!”) rather than your mental reactions to those
external events (“I’m allowing what he’s doing to make me mad!”), you will remain
a victim of your emotions, rather than master of them. You’ll have good days and bad days, but you
won’t really be able to choose which. So be it. Much of the world will never choose to operate in
any other way, so you’ll have a large peer group to fit in with. However… as a responsible
member of my organization, it is my job to make sure I am telling myself the mental stories that conjure
up the productive, innovation fostering emotions, and replace the stories that conjure up unproductive
emotions with a reasonably believable story that creates a more effective emotional state (an effective
affect, if you will).
Once Upon a Time
For example, if a colleague acts in a way that you find to be inappropriate, you could tell yourself
what a jerk the person is, remind yourself over and over how inappropriate they are, and work yourself
into a real fit of self-righteous anger. Or, you could tell yourself that you have a real opportunity
to stretch your personal creativity in the service of understanding this person’s perspective.
One story will generate anger, distance and disengagement with little or no chance for an innovative
relationship. The second story will generate curiosity, engagement, and perhaps connection. A much greater
(but not guaranteed) chance of an innovation-fostering relationship.
Now we’re not talking some naive
silliness here that you should construe to mean that if a colleague behaves poorly around or toward you,
you should just make up a false story that keeps you from being upset so that you pretend to never have a
conflict. What we ARE saying is that in such a situation you still have choice in your story and the emotions
you experience. Find one that serves you and could help you to better understand their behavior. The responsibility
for which story you choose is yours alone. And since the story is what creates the emotion, how you feel is
your choice as well.
Metabolizing Out of Control Emotions
So here’s where it all comes together. What happens if you overindulge in a particular mental story
that is leads to a particular emotion is that you can end up energizing the neurochemistry of that particular
emotion to such a degree that you can’t get out of that strong feeling. In this situation, only time and
metabolism will bring you back to a somewhat more normal state of emotion for you.
Here’s an example of
how it works with anger: you get yourself so worked up that nothing gets you to mellow out except the passage
of time. As Kipling said “to fill the unforgiving moment with 60 seconds worth of distance run.”
You know the scenario, you get ticked off at a loved one and take a walk, exercise, or sleep it off and only
then after “calming down” can you view the situation with objectivity (and sometimes even a degree
of embarrassment for your actions and words). The same thing happens when we “fall in love” and
experience the all-encompassing, judgment-clouding emotion of that new love. You know, the time when you
actually think that you’ve found the perfect mate with whom you’d never have any conflict. And
no matter what anyone says, you know that this person has no faults, flaws, or weaknesses and they can do no
wrong. Until reality sets in over time.
ZOC Good. ZUT Bad
We call this stage when we’re no longer in control of our emotions — this overindulgence —
“ZUT: The Zone of Unclear Thought.” ZUT is the neurochemical point where you no can no longer
choose your story to keep yourself emotionally “centered.” In other words, in ZUT, you’ve
lost control. Without deliberate focus and work, we are vulnerable to traveling from the Zone of Control
(ZOC) into ZUT, a place where we are at the mercy of our neurochemicals. And while falling in love can be
pretty cool in the right circumstances, it isn’t always best to do that blindly. Same is true with
anger: it”s not good to indulge yourself in the angry thought travel that leads you to a real rage.
It’s Your Responsibility
Which means that with this knowledge comes a significant obligation. The responsibility to stay in the
ZOC to avoid the ZUT. It’s not a legitimate excuse to say, “I couldn’t help it, I was in ZUT.”
What that means is that you weren’t doing the work to stay in ZOC. Truly a heady responsibility. And
isn’t it interesting that we use the expression “Blindly in love” or “In a blind rage?”
Let’s face it, it’s easy to get tripped up if you walk around with your eyes closed. And it can
lead to a lot of zut, which is a French expression for… well, ask a French speaking friend what that
means. And find out why it’s better to stay in ZOC than to step in ZUT.
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